Comments on: Can do, can’t do; and a twist of fate! http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/ Personal rant space of a guy no longer using an alias Mon, 06 Feb 2012 04:21:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Padwanna http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-134 Padwanna Wed, 28 Jun 2006 22:15:03 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-134 Hi Anon #2,<br/><br/>You don't think despise is a bit of a harsh way to look at shy people. I say shy because I've found that it is mainly shy people with low self esteems that generally have a "can't do" attitude. These are the people that are more in need of a supporting arm from others, and less in need of criticism.<br/><br/>Padwanna! Hi Anon #2,

You don’t think despise is a bit of a harsh way to look at shy people. I say shy because I’ve found that it is mainly shy people with low self esteems that generally have a “can’t do” attitude. These are the people that are more in need of a supporting arm from others, and less in need of criticism.

Padwanna!

]]> By: Padwanna http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-133 Padwanna Wed, 28 Jun 2006 22:11:47 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-133 Hi Anon #1,<br/><br/>Yes expectations can be a difficult thing to live up to, no doubt. But I don't know if I totally agree with you there about it being better that people think you're stupid and feeling good about proving them wrong. I'd be more inclined to show people that I am capable and gain their respect when I meet them, rather than let them get a bad opinion of me by doing nothing.<br/><br/>But that's just me. I do like to try to give people a positive impression when they are around me.<br/><br/>Padwanna! Hi Anon #1,

Yes expectations can be a difficult thing to live up to, no doubt. But I don’t know if I totally agree with you there about it being better that people think you’re stupid and feeling good about proving them wrong. I’d be more inclined to show people that I am capable and gain their respect when I meet them, rather than let them get a bad opinion of me by doing nothing.

But that’s just me. I do like to try to give people a positive impression when they are around me.

Padwanna!

]]> By: Padwanna http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Padwanna Wed, 28 Jun 2006 22:06:23 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-132 Hi Pip,<br/><br/>Thanks for stopping by and leaving some thoughts.<br/><br/>Yeah you're right of course, opportunities are a lot easier to come by when you're educated and part of the mainstream culture. If you're not, life can be very unfair.<br/><br/>I like you're attitude with children, I find that an admirable way to get them thinking in healthy ways early on. I could use some of that right now. :)<br/><br/>Fantastic news about your trip to Brasil, I am really excited for you! That will be excellent fun and so rewarding all at the same time. I envy and admire you for what you're doing. I hope it all goes the way you want. Well at any rate, you have a while before you go, so we'll talk some more before then! :)<br/><br/>Enjoy the rain again and talk to you soon! :) Hi Pip,

Thanks for stopping by and leaving some thoughts.

Yeah you’re right of course, opportunities are a lot easier to come by when you’re educated and part of the mainstream culture. If you’re not, life can be very unfair.

I like you’re attitude with children, I find that an admirable way to get them thinking in healthy ways early on. I could use some of that right now. :)

Fantastic news about your trip to Brasil, I am really excited for you! That will be excellent fun and so rewarding all at the same time. I envy and admire you for what you’re doing. I hope it all goes the way you want. Well at any rate, you have a while before you go, so we’ll talk some more before then! :)

Enjoy the rain again and talk to you soon! :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-131 Anonymous Fri, 23 Jun 2006 01:32:55 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-131 I despise people with a "can't do" attitude. I despise people with a “can’t do” attitude.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-130 Anonymous Wed, 21 Jun 2006 15:01:35 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-130 The exact opposite isn't much fun either, alas.<br/>Having people around you assuming you can do everything because you're such an intelligent person can put you down very much too.<br/>*talking from experience* Especially when they expect so much of you it's hard to let them down, even when you try really, really hard.<br/><br/>In fact, I actually think that having people thinking you're stupid is much more motivating than having people think you're brilliant. Not in the least because it's a greater satisfaction to be proving them wrong when they think you're stupid and inadequate. The exact opposite isn’t much fun either, alas.
Having people around you assuming you can do everything because you’re such an intelligent person can put you down very much too.
*talking from experience* Especially when they expect so much of you it’s hard to let them down, even when you try really, really hard.

In fact, I actually think that having people thinking you’re stupid is much more motivating than having people think you’re brilliant. Not in the least because it’s a greater satisfaction to be proving them wrong when they think you’re stupid and inadequate.

]]> By: pippi http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-129 pippi Wed, 21 Jun 2006 13:27:51 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-129 bye the way, found my opportunity going to work in Brasil in the spring of 2007. Probably for three months in an orphanage in Sao Paolo. Allready want that for 15 years, now i no longer have an excuse off a steady job, no money, no people i know bla bla. I'm really looking forward to that!<br/>Talk to you soon bye the way, found my opportunity going to work in Brasil in the spring of 2007. Probably for three months in an orphanage in Sao Paolo. Allready want that for 15 years, now i no longer have an excuse off a steady job, no money, no people i know bla bla. I’m really looking forward to that!
Talk to you soon

]]> By: pippi http://www.mentalechoes.org/2006/06/can-do-cant-do-and-a-twist-of-fate/comment-page-1/#comment-128 pippi Tue, 20 Jun 2006 14:15:53 +0000 http://www.mentalechoes.org/?p=136#comment-128 He Padwanna,<br/>Always love your titles, I totally get your motivation in proving them wrong people that makes you feel inadequate or stupid. That's a good drive but on the other hand it is also a bit the American philosophy that anybody in that free country has the same opportunities, you have the freedom to be what ever you want to be. Yeah sure except if your: black, disabled, hispanic or from an other group that is not in favor. I stronly believe in positive stimulation, but i alsso believe in giving children some sense off reality. That does not mean that i don't think that people are capeable off a lot. But a good evironment helps, good backround, and a lot off luck and sure nice people around you. Groetjes Pippi He Padwanna,
Always love your titles, I totally get your motivation in proving them wrong people that makes you feel inadequate or stupid. That’s a good drive but on the other hand it is also a bit the American philosophy that anybody in that free country has the same opportunities, you have the freedom to be what ever you want to be. Yeah sure except if your: black, disabled, hispanic or from an other group that is not in favor. I stronly believe in positive stimulation, but i alsso believe in giving children some sense off reality. That does not mean that i don’t think that people are capeable off a lot. But a good evironment helps, good backround, and a lot off luck and sure nice people around you. Groetjes Pippi

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