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It’s all about the OH in letting GO!
As I’ve come to realise in my breakup life (both past and present), it’s the OHHH part of ‘letting go’ that can be the hardest thing to emotionally deal with. By OH, I mean things like…
OH my god, is it really over….
OH I still love you…
OH I miss you so much…
OH fuck this hurts…
OH who is going to keep the friends?…
This stuff is all part of the early, Letting GOHHH! Fortunately for me being the well internetted guy that I am, I turned to the web for some soothing advice to take the knife edge off my first week of being single. After all, it’s well documented that new singles turn to the web for support, cybersex and online arranged fuckbuddys to help them begin the healing process. So I put some phrase into google like ‘breakup letting go dealing with it’, or some other jumble of pity words that could have been on the board of a lonely hearts club scrabble game, and the first thing that came back was a link on how to save your relationship. Not just that, but it was garaunteed, no matter what the problem was; infidelity, terminal disease, Dr Phil addiction. You only had to pay US$29.95 and your partner would be yours again, even if she hated your guts and had hired a contract killer to have you assassinated in a painful and gruesome way. Whats more, the streaming media advertisement was a nice blond chick with a hot body, lying on a bed in a black cocktail dress seductively purring that if you paid now, you would receive at no extra charge the ‘Making It Work’ handbook, so that once you were back together you would stay that way. Just to ram the message home and rub salt in my wound, they had nice pictures of ‘real couples’ that had suffered the most horrendous breakups and were now back together. Over my shoulder I could hear the voice of reason saying to me in a loud voice, “get off this fucking site and find some porn, this is complete crap”.
I then put an episode from Series 3 of the L Word on, because there is a lot of wisdom in that show. It’s not just a show about lesbians with lesbian sex scenes, there’s also lots of lessons about how to deal with breakups, because most of the show is about chicks getting together and chicks breaking up. So I put on the one where Dana has just left Alice, and Alice is not dealing with it at all. In some strange, seeing how badly Alice was coping made me feel better because at least I am not a total wreck, and I could see that things could be worse. After a while I turned it off because I just couldn’t stand all the drama the chicks were going through. Jezuz, who needs to see how crappy a breakup can get on television when you’re going through of your own?!
It’s funny how life can go. You can go a year without anything happening, and then all of a sudden in the space of one week, everything changes. And really, the only thing you can do, is just deal with it. It’s all about how you accept a new situation that makes the difference in how well you begin moving on.
Padwanna.
Posted: November 27th, 2006 under General Rant.
Comments: 8
Comments
Comment from Anonymous
Time: November 28, 2006, 1:56 am
This brought a smile to my face, it’s so true (and funny) (:
Kusje!
Comment from Down Under Mercedes
Time: November 29, 2006, 6:14 am
Oh boy, I can relate to everything you’ve written! It’s all so true!!
Hang in there…. you know, every cloud has a silver lining. :-))
((HUGZZZZ))
Comment from pippi
Time: November 29, 2006, 9:00 am
He Padwanna, i hope you feel a bit better? I’m still a bit in rocky wetter but the tie will turn soon i hope. I know happiness does not lie in materialistic things but the parcel that arrived today at least made me smile a bit. All the designers and artists i know swear by an apple computer and offcourse stubborn as i am i did not listen to them. Instead i choose to listen to my twinbrother who is an computerfreak and i bought a microsoft laptop instead. I was really happy with it to a certain extend but i could not forget the benefits an apple has for a designer so today i’m changing believes i guess, i’m really curious what this machine will bring me. Have any experienz with it do you?
Me i’m very naif in reading things and believing them to, like stuff in the paper and you being single according to your personalia. I allready bumped my head many times believing what people say and write, but i like the idea off people sharing the truth and being open, that’s my problem i guess, and a writers freedom.
Did you know pippi knows her ways with beers and wine? She is a very good listener to so if you ever need to talk amongst friendly people your welcome. Maybe in 2007 my good premination ( is that even English? ) will be to finally after one year show you my real identity. Hoping you are oke soon.
Groet en kus Pippi
Comment from ann
Time: November 30, 2006, 11:17 am
Sorry you are having to deal with this. Good luck.
Comment from Padwanna
Time: November 30, 2006, 2:12 pm
Hi Anonymous,
It makes me happy to know that I made you smile… it’s everything to me.
Padwanna
Comment from Padwanna
Time: November 30, 2006, 2:18 pm
Hi Mercedes,
Oh I know you can relate to this darling, if anyone in the world can!
I take a lot of heart from you and your own experience, I hope you know that.
Thanks for your comment, dear friend.
Padwanna!
Comment from Padwanna
Time: November 30, 2006, 2:28 pm
Hi dearest Pip,
Yes the birthday present you gave me was absolutely fantastic! I loved it. Really it was something very special to get because it was totally unexpected. The eucalyptus lollies were my favourite. 
As to the computer, well as I work with everything there is almost, I can give you a fair assessment and tell you that Apples are pretty fantastic and sexy machines. Much more so than windows laptops. However, they do take some getting used to if you have never used one before. But you’re a smart girl, I’m sure it wouldn’t take too long.
Ahh, you’re a sweet person Pip to extend a hand with a beer in it for some emotional unloading. Yeah you know, I think the time is coming when we should meet, since it’s been over a year since we’ve been talking here and I have no idea still who you are! Even me, the very patient is getting curious to know who you are! Definitely could be something fun for January 2007!
Heh heh…
Padwanna!
Comment from Padwanna
Time: November 30, 2006, 2:30 pm
Hi Anne,
Lovely to get a comment from you. Thanks for the kind support. It’s nice to hear.
Take care and read you soon,
Padwanna!
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