It’s all about the OH in letting GO!

As I’ve come to realise in my breakup life (both past and present), it’s the OHHH part of ‘letting go’ that can be the hardest thing to emotionally deal with. By OH, I mean things like…

OH my god, is it really over….
OH I still love you…
OH I miss you so much…
OH fuck this hurts…
OH who is going to keep the friends?…

This stuff is all part of the early, Letting GOHHH! Fortunately for me being the well internetted guy that I am, I turned to the web for some soothing advice to take the knife edge off my first week of being single. After all, it’s well documented that new singles turn to the web for support, cybersex and online arranged fuckbuddys to help them begin the healing process. So I put some phrase into google like ‘breakup letting go dealing with it’, or some other jumble of pity words that could have been on the board of a lonely hearts club scrabble game, and the first thing that came back was a link on how to save your relationship. Not just that, but it was garaunteed, no matter what the problem was; infidelity, terminal disease, Dr Phil addiction. You only had to pay US$29.95 and your partner would be yours again, even if she hated your guts and had hired a contract killer to have you assassinated in a painful and gruesome way. Whats more, the streaming media advertisement was a nice blond chick with a hot body, lying on a bed in a black cocktail dress seductively purring that if you paid now, you would receive at no extra charge the ‘Making It Work’ handbook, so that once you were back together you would stay that way. Just to ram the message home and rub salt in my wound, they had nice pictures of ‘real couples’ that had suffered the most horrendous breakups and were now back together. Over my shoulder I could hear the voice of reason saying to me in a loud voice, “get off this fucking site and find some porn, this is complete crap”.

I then put an episode from Series 3 of the L Word on, because there is a lot of wisdom in that show. It’s not just a show about lesbians with lesbian sex scenes, there’s also lots of lessons about how to deal with breakups, because most of the show is about chicks getting together and chicks breaking up. So I put on the one where Dana has just left Alice, and Alice is not dealing with it at all. In some strange, seeing how badly Alice was coping made me feel better because at least I am not a total wreck, and I could see that things could be worse. After a while I turned it off because I just couldn’t stand all the drama the chicks were going through. Jezuz, who needs to see how crappy a breakup can get on television when you’re going through of your own?!

It’s funny how life can go. You can go a year without anything happening, and then all of a sudden in the space of one week, everything changes. And really, the only thing you can do, is just deal with it. It’s all about how you accept a new situation that makes the difference in how well you begin moving on.

Padwanna.

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