Last night I went to a birthday party of a good friend of mine. She decided to do something different from the usual drinks in a bar type bash that is soooo typical of the Amsterdam socialite crowd by booking a couple of lanes at a big bowling center in the south west of the city. Me being me of course, I turned up so late I missed the bowling completely and was only there in time for the last round of drinks. To be fair, I was at a poker game organised on the same day and I had forgotten about the birthday party until I made a phone call to find out about another birthday party that I thought was on that night, but had actually been on the night before, to which I was informed I had totally missed. So all things considered being two hours late on the day wasn’t that bad (and I’m a liability on a bowling lane at the best of times).
I did however meet someone that took me back in time about 10 years to my first month when I arrived in Amsterdam. One of the couples there was an English woman who had sitting next to her a guy I would have picked from some part of latin America but was to later find out he was from Mexico. I got talking to him and found out he’d just recently arrived in The Netherlands to make a serious go of the relationship with the English woman which started when the two of them met while she was on holidays in his country.
I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry, or give a phone number to him of someone who could help him with legal advice when the shit hit the fan. This guy was telling me the exact same story that I had heard from my Venezuelan soul brother, Balduino nearly 10 years ago to the weekend, on the day that we first met in a small cafe close to where I now live. Mexico man told me of the troubles he was having meeting people, and how left out he felt being here. He also said that he really appreciated that I took the time to talk to him and include him in the conversation because most people were treating him like he didn’t exist. The poor bloke! I felt like telling him he has a hard road ahead of him; that more than likely he’s going to get fucked by the bureaucratic red tape attempting to get a visa to stay here; and that his girlfriend is more than likely going to turn into a flesh eating psychopathic killer before the end of the year. I’d gone through all of this with Balduino, and seen the hardship and triumphs in his own struggle to make a place for himself in clog-land. I didn’t though, but instead told him that he would take some time to adjust and to give it time with finding his feet.
We talked and all too soon it was time to go. Mexico man asked me if I would like to get together again for a drink somewhere as I had been the first person who taken the time to talk and get to know him. I said yes, knowing that really he’s just reaching out and trying to find that one friend that will help make him feel like he has something here, besides his girlfriend (who said fuck all to me for most of our conversation anyway). I figured it was the least I could do, but couldn’t help but wonder if at some point in the short term future there would be a nasty breakup and him landing on my doorstep asking if he can come in because the ex is trying to kill him.
Life it seems, really does have a sense of irony.
Andy.
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